Some people approach forgiveness as a process, and given the unhappy sociology of most humans beings, many will need this method as a path of deliberate purification and release. Nevertheless, in a more fundamental sense, the concept of forgiveness is a concession to egotism.
An act of forgiveness in which we hesitate, in which we have to be persuaded to forgive, implies a certain failure on our part. In other words, what made us withhold forgiveness in the first place? To hold a picture of our self as in the place of one who is about to forgive means that, up to that point, we’ve been unforgiving. So, the slightest hesitation or consciousness of our self as dispensing forgiveness is, in a way, a sign of failure and a lack of full spontaneous love and self-realization. To learn to forgive is good, but to not need to learn is better. That is why I like the thought of “forgiving” a neighbors “sins,” so to speak, before they are committed. In an ideal state of uninterrupted love and forgiveness there would be no sense of separation, of “I” over here needing to forgive “you” over there. Love makes us a spiritual unity so there is no hesitation, and no sense that forgiveness is required because the emotion of being unforgiving never arises. Humanity is not there yet, but this realization would make the very concept of forgiveness obsolete.